So, I've started reading The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin.
(OK, I'm not really reading it, I'm listening to an audio book. Who has time to sit and read anymore?)
I'm only about four chapters in and I'm really loving some parts of it. I think some of the author's goals could work for me and would be great for me to try. Other ideas and goals she sets for herself wouldn't work at all for me. It's got me thinking, though.
One of the goals Gretchen has was to spend a certain amount of time, like a week or a month, and not dump all her problems on her husband. I must raise my hand at being extremely guilty about this. My poor Hubby. He has to listen to me vent all my frustrations on him. Some days there is very little to vent. Other days, like today, I have a lot more to say. The kids were being destructive, I had to deal with a stupid "customer service" person on the phone, etc.... He is pretty good about just letting me vent, but I still feel bad about it.
Maybe I need to set a goal like Gretchen's. I need to go one week without dumping my frustrations on my husband. I can write them in a notebook when I need to vent. I need to try and tell him about the good and the funny things that happen. One week, how bad can it be?
2 comments:
I think you need each other to vent, just set time limits. My husband will let me vent, but I know his attention span is all of 2 minutes so I can keep talking as long as I want and sometimes I do, but I know he tuned out at that mark and sometimes he doesn't even make it there. I don't really need him to listen, just a body to bounce my voice off of and get it out.
I'm going to try this--sometimes I think venting is good and sometimes I think I should just let things go and not get worked up about them. Sometimes when I vent I'm just rehearsing stuff I would do better to forget...I'm going to try a week at first.
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